So you've talked about it with your partner, and you’re ready to buy your first strap on. The number of options can sometimes be overwhelming, so we’ve written this handy little guide to help get you started.

Before we get started, buying a strap on is very similar to buying a dildo. To prevent too much duplication, this guide will focus on the strap on nature, for more details on the dildo, read our guide on Buying Your First Dildo.

 

Sophias Red Rider Strap On Dildo - £20.85Shape
When it comes to strap ons, you can go one of two ways with the shape. Straight dildos are designed to give a feeling of ‘fullness’, and curved dildos are great for stimulating your prostate. Remember that a lot of harnesses can take various dildos (providing they have a flange/base), so you can experiment with different toys.

Diameter
For beginners, sticking to 0.75” - 1.25” is a great starting point. If you’re worried about a toy being too large, get a smaller one first and work your way up. A great way to do this with anal toys is to buy a butt plug set, made up of various diameters and lengths. This will give you a choice of toy and won’t leave you disappointed if the one you start with is too small.

Material
For your first strap on dildo we’d recommend silicone as your first choice of material. It’s lifelike, easy to clean, and soft. Other more firm materials include glass and stainless steel. These materials are great for experimenting with, and glass dildos can be heated up or cooled down to provide new sensations and intensify your orgasm.

Colour
Like most toys, colour should be the last thing to think about when shopping, as you want to make sure you’re going to enjoy the toy first and foremost. That said, some colours can be real turn ons for people, so keep it in mind.

Double ended?
Double ended strap ons give pleasure to both the wearer and the receiver. There are a couple of different options here, either a single strapless dildo, or the kind of underwear that holds one dildo outwards, and one inwards.Lamour Double Dildo Duo Penetrator - £24.30

Vibration
Some strap ons now come with vibrators built in, or a space to add a small bullet vibrator. These can add extra sensations and intensify your orgasm. Remember, just because a strap on has a vibrate feature, doesn’t mean you have to use it all the time!

Lube
When shopping for lube, bear in mind what you’re using it for. Is it to help you lubricate yourself or to give you an extra sensation (warming or tingling)? Remember that silicone lubricant bonds with silicone toys and can ruin them, so when buying a silicone dildo remember to use a non-silicone based lube. When playing anally remember to use plenty of lube, as your bum isn’t self lubricating like your vagina is!

 

Things to remember
Have you got butt plugs/anal dildo/prostate massager to get your partner ready? If you or your partner has never explored anally before this, take a look at our Experimenting with Anal Play blog post and make sure you've got everything you need to enjoy your experience!

 

We hope this guide has helped you choose your first strap on, and hope it gives you many nights of pleasure. If you've got anything you’d like us to add or have any questions, leave us a comment below.