Pegging GuidePegging is a fun and kinky way to take your relationship one step further and really spice up your sex life! Just remember like any new sexual exploration, it’ll take time and practice to get right and really enjoy, and to take it slow the first time.

So what is pegging?
Pegging is the act of a woman penetrating a man’s bottom with a strapon dildo to bring you both sexual pleasure.

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Preparation
Now you’ve got your strapon, you need to know how to use it, so that when the time comes to play with it comes you’re confident with it, and your partner will feel more relaxed as you take control.
This means you need to take it out of the box and try it on. Walk around with it to get used to it, and practice thrusting your hips (you’ll be doing a lot of that). If you need to make any adjustments to the dildo or harness, do it now. This is all to make your first time playing with it as smooth a ride as possible, and you won’t have to stop and adjust as much.

Squeaky Clean
Get your partner to have a shower before getting started. This will make sure is squeaky clean and ready for your anal explorations. If you’re still worried about anything happening, read our guide on using a douche to give him a thorough clean before playtime.
You can also use this as foreplay to get him really riled up. Jump in the shower and wash him down, paying close attention to his key areas.

Foreplay
Anal sex gives you plenty of time to enjoy foreplay. When pegging this could mean use of your fingers or butt plugs to get him ready, maybe in combination with oral sex.
Foreplay like kissing and groping before you’ve got the strapon on will also give you a chance to catch up and enjoy it too. Try kissing normally before exploring with your hands and eventually taking control away from him.

Positions
There are a few good positions for enjoying pegging to get you started. Each has its benefits and drawbacks, but they’ll definitely keep you both happy!

Bent Over
Bent at the waist over a table or counter, this position is great for beginners as it presents his bum for you and gives him support to. Even if his legs wobble or shake he’ll have the surface for support.

On His Back
On the bed, a position a little less intimidating/exposing for the man (whether they prefer this position often depends on who instigated pegging, as some men want to be submissive during it). It makes things a little trickier for penetration because they are on their back, but gives you access to their penis which you will be able to play with freely.

Doggie Style
With the partner up on their hands and knees, the feeling of you dominating them is back. This position gives you easy access and you can easily play with their penis by teaching around.

Lazy Doggie
Another submissive one for men, although a lot comfier is the lazy doggie. You get all the perks of doggie style + the facts you’re both lying down. You’ll also get full skin to skin contact so they can feel your breasts pressing into their back.

Lube
Now that your partner is in position and waiting for you, it's time to lubricate your strapon cock. We recommend a good quality water based lubricant. If your partner wants to be dominated, get them to watch you apply a generous amount of lube to your strapon. Simulate male masturbation and move your fist up and down it to get it well lubed. Tell him what you are doing, and tell him where the dildo is about to go.
Next, move over to your partner and apply lube to their rosebud. Tease them and rub it around to prepare him. When ready, gently push a finger inside. Move it in and out several times.

Tip: make pegging ever hotter and enjoy rimming.

Penetrating
Take the shaft of your strapon cock in one hand and guide it to the entrance of your partner’s well lubed anus. Push the head in slightly and wait for the sphincter muscles to relax before proceeding. You’ll want to push in an inch or two before stopping again.
Now you need to use a bit of intuition. You can either slowly push your whole shaft in, before pulling out and repeating. This will give them the full length right away and get them used to the size quickly.
Alternatively you can push in and pull out deeper and deeper until you build a nice rhythm. Either way, you’ll soon be fucking him in no time.
Use his hips to grab onto, and don’t forget to give his penis some attention too! Read his body language to see what he likes and what he doesn’t and remember, if it hurts or is too dry, use more lube or change the angle. Pegging will take time and practice for you both to really enjoy it.

Finishing
A common question about pegging is how do you finish?
For men, they may want to climax whilst you are penetrating them. This can either be through the fabled ‘prostate orgasm’ or they can play with themselves/you can play with them. Other men might want to penetrate you to climax, also giving you a chance to orgasm too.
For women, sometimes just pegging your partner can bring you close to climax, meaning you only need a little stimulation to reach orgasm.

Other Questions:
Is my partner gay if he wants me to peg him?
No! Enjoying the pleasures of pegging and prostate massage doesn’t make your partner gay! You should be happy that they trust you with the knowledge that they enjoy it.

I want to peg my partner but they have no idea, how do I ask?
Be open with your partner and ask them. Maybe next time you're enjoying sex with them explore a little with your hands and see how they react.

Can women enjoy pegging?
Yes! On top of double ended strapons that give you physical pleasure with every thrust, women can find penetrating their partner deeply arousing to a point where they can orgasm with even the briefest of touches.

How do men enjoy pegging?
Every time you penetrate your partner with the strapon, you’ll come into contact with their prostate. Massaging the prostate like this is incredibly pleasurable to a man. This is also called ‘prostate milking’, where every thrust will give pleasure to the man and will get their ejacualatory fluid flowing. Some men can even orgasm just from this feeling, or may even ejaculate without orgasm.

Getting Kinkier
Get even kinkier by using a blindfold, handcuffs or a gag. They’re all great for giving you even more power over your partner and letting them know who is really in charge!

 

We hope this guide has opened your eyes to the world of pegging. Use it to bring you and your partner together, and keep practicing until you get it just right. If you think we’ve missed anything or you have something to add, let us know with a comment below.